a mom entrepreneur who seeks fufillment in being their own lady boss.
Ever since I could work, I did. In high school I had my first job working at my neighborhood movie store (before streaming put these stores out of business), then it was onto being a sales associate for Gap in college, and finally after I graduated I began my career as a teacher. I always found a sense of pride in my work and making my own income was a very powerful feeling. It wasn’t until I got married, and my husband’s work transplanted us from the east coast to California, that I knew my career would be, in a lot of ways, put on the back burner.
I didn’t mind taking a step back to support my husband because it happened to be during a season of life that I needed the rest. It was also within the same year we found out we were expecting. My pregnancy allowed my husband and I the opportunity to have a lot of conversations and plan for the years ahead.
The transitional period
Although taking time off of work and staying home with Greyson was a non-negotiable for me, I still found myself struggling with the transition of becoming a new stay-at-home-mom. This was the first time I had to financially rely on someone else and it was a foreign feeling for me.
Thankfully, those feelings eventually subsided but over time I found myself yearning for something I could carve out for myself. Greyson began to grow and become more independent, which allowed me extra time to focus on the things that brought me enjoyment outside of being his mom. So, I continued blogging and eventually opened my very own lettering shop, Little Fox Lettering Co. Starting this new phase of mom-trepreneurship had me busier than ever, but I was thankful I had the opportunities I did to explore that part of myself and share it with others.
In the years since first bringing Grey home, being a wife, a small business owner, managing a full time job as a teacher (and not to mention a teaching blog from time to time), and now a beauty consultant, has me spinning all kinds of plates. My schedule can, for sure, become overwhelming and there are moments where I truly contemplate whether I can, indeed, do it all.
Questions to ask myself:
Even though I can struggle from time to time, I continually seek reflection and trust in the process as I ask myself three questions that help keep the balance and determine whether or not my energy is being placed correctly. When I take the moment to slow down and reflect, I find that the answers are often right there in front of me. Other times, I need to talk it out with someone, read helpful blog posts on the topic, or simply take a break. But, no matter what #ladyboss you are, these questions aim to help guide you towards a better work-life balance.
1.Are my gifts being used in a purposeful way that brings joy?
This is a big question that I’ve found myself asking whenever the workload seems to be overwhelming. I ask, ‘am I happy? Do I have purpose in what I’m doing? Is it something worthy of my time? Does it benefit my family in a positive way?‘ These questions help me focus on my values and help me take inventory of where I’m using my time and efforts. After asking these questions I find myself with a clearer mindset to make the next decision.
2. Am I passionate about what I’m doing?
This is a huge question and can make or break whether or not I continue with a project. For example, when I started my first blog I was so excited and after a few years I found myself asking these questions and decided that it was time to focus on the other areas of my life – so I let it go.
When you’re passionate about something you’re excited to do it! When that passion fades and it becomes laborious and feels like work, it might be time to hang it up. However, like me, that passion could reignite and take the form of something else. I am confident that it was because I took rest in the first place that I was able to create something really special and cohesive here at Little Fox.
3. Am I in it for the right reasons?
This final question combines the values of the previous two. I’m a firm believer that no matter what you do whether it’s in your businesses, blogs, or real-world job you should be doing it for the right reasons. I have found that when I do things or make choices simply to make money (because, come on, we all want to make money) it never pans out.
Do yourself a favor and ask yourself these questions and I guarantee you’ll have a clearer vision for your brand or blog. Just be prepared for what your answers might reveal – it could tell you to keep pressing on or, like for me, it tells you to take a step back. I’m thankful to those years where I followed my heart because it gave me the time to see what God was building up in me. I’m now in a place where I can be confident in my entrepreneurial aspirations without feeling like I have to compromise or settle in other areas of my life.